Recently, I was able to wean off of my last medication that inhibits folic acid/folate processing. Which really means that the last major obstacle in the way of trying for baby #2 is gone.
In the three years since the birth of the kiddo, I've gone back and forth on the family planning train so many times...it's ridiculous.
My initial plan for having kids was always to wait a few years (say, 4) between kids. The reasons being 1) I REALLY enjoy the baby phase, so I'd like to enjoy it and spread it out over as many years as possible and 2) Being so sick during my first pregnancy (I had severe hyperemesis gravidarum), I wanted to be able to be pregnant when I didn't have to worry about caring for another baby...having a kid in school for a few hours a day is a big help when you need rest & spend your entire day sick.
And then my arthritis got really crappy and doctors were saying I needed to reconsider that timeline- 1) they were reluctant to put me on some aggressive arthritis therapies if I was only going to be on them for a relatively short time before I wanted to have another child 2)My PCP at the time scared the crap out of me saying that I really needed to get pregnant before the magic age of 30, when my risk of pregnancy-induced heart failure increased...especially with aggressive arthritis which can have some not so great cardiovascular comorbidities.
So, we tried to get pregnant. And I miscarried, twice. Turns out my Hashimoto's disease was really impacting my TSH levels. My thyroid disease was not controlled, I had a goiter, and thyroid disease can be a real drag on fertility.
And then my daily headaches got really cranky again. So, I had another IUD inserted.
So, here we are. I am off all of the bad stuff when it comes to birth defects and pregnancy. My thyroid is controlled. My husband's company introduced some really awesome daddy leave. Is it time to take the leap? I'm afraid to say yes. I'm afraid to not go for it NOW, when everything seems to be perfect. But, I just started some really great professional things in my life and as a family we're starting to travel again... Am I ready to stop all of that or slow down to have a baby?
No person or family has an easy time deciding when to have another baby... Being a spoonie makes it that much more complicated.
What do you all have to say? I'd love to hear from other spoonie moms.